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Distance Friendship

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A friend recently posted this on Facebook, I couldn't agree more!
 
 
The downside of living abroad and moving around is that you’re constantly adjusting to new things. Another new place you’ll call home, a new job (for my spouse, in my case), a new school (for kids), a new culture and customs and, of course, new friends.
 
Thanks to technology, staying in touch with friends is quick and easy. Text messages (SMS, BBM, Whatsapp, or any other form), free calls on skype, emails, and others. But will these guarantee that the friendships will be the same? Well, probably not. Everyone is busy with daily life, and calling friends regularly might not be as easy as it sounds. Our time is easily spent on big and small things every day. Not to mention dealing with the time differences, it doesn’t come easy to manage the right timing that works for both sides.
 
But like any relationship, we need to make an effort and it requires a mutual commitment to maintain friendships.  From time to time saying a quick hello and sharing little things will help to stay close. We’ll eventually also know which friends are likely to stay in touch and which are just the coffee or shopping kind of friends.  I have a few close friends that I still talk to (almost) everyday, even though we haven’t lived in the same country for years.  And some friends that, despite the irregular chat, still feel close to each other. They are friends for life.
 
While I was typing this, it suddenly struck me, how about kiddos? Little Missy had a few friends with whom she was very close to with when we lived in Jakarta, those who she always referred to as her best friends. Those are the ones she loved to play with and the ones she had to say good-bye to when we moved to China. 
Buddies!!
 
The thing is, unlike us, kids at her age don’t have the ability to access each other easily. They obviously primarily rely on us, the parents, to make the phone/video call for them. And with parents always busy with our daily routines, this calling-thing is likely to wind up on the bottom of our to-do list. 
 
I know my little girl misses her buddies in Jakarta.  Yes she has new friends in her new school, but it’s been only 2 weeks and she hardly ever mentions any of their names at home. Well there is one boy’s name that occasionally comes up but its nothing compared to how often she used to mention her old friends. Every now and then, names of the usual suspects still pop out. No doubt she has memories of them especially the two little girls who were by the far her best friends.  Even a small thing like the color pink or anything with the Hello Kitty brand will remind her of them.
They have been best-friends since babyhood!!
 
Although she doesn’t make a big deal about it, I know she misses our home in Jakarta, her friends, her old school, her dog, even the playground she used to go to. Here all she has is new faces at school and us, mom & dad, at home. So far she hasn’t had any play-dates after school or on weekends, like she used to have in Jakarta. 
I’m so sorry darling but your mommy is still adjusting and trying to make new friends here too. All the new people that I’ve met in these first 2 weeks unfortunately don’t have young kids. And I haven’t yet had the chance to make contact with your classmate’s mommies – but mommy’s working on it ☺. 
 
I feel for you my daughter. I know you miss your friends. Don’t worry we’ll make new friends soon, for you and me.  We will make this new place, a HOME. We will, I promise.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

GREETING FROM CHINA!

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      Greeting from CHINA!   Nope, we’re not travelling to China, we moved to China! It’s shocking, I know. Didn’t I share in my last post that I had just plunged myself back into an office job again? Oh well, life sometimes doesn’t work as planned.  When Mr Husband came home one day and said that he’s discussing a new job in China, I was like,...

SAHM, No More...

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I have not written on my blog for ages. Heck I only visit my blog once or twice a week now. People have asked why they never see any new posts. My last post was back on May 13th; crap that was over 2 months ago!

Well, here’s the reason why. 

In May, we had a very special visitor from the USA. Little Missy had so much fun having her Nana here in our house for 3 weeks. We took her travelling around to some beautiful places in...

A Wildlife Experience in South Australia

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I finally had a chance to write about our recent family trip to Australia. Life has been rather busy since we got back to Jakarta and finding uninterrupted me-time to write on my blog has been a real challenge.  But better late than never, so here we go…

Our dear friends, Glen and Judith, had inviting us to visit their lovely home in South Australia since last year. We were supposed to make the trip in January but had to...

WEEKLY WRAP-UP

WEEK 3 - APRIL 2013

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It’s the first fresh week after we’re back from our family vacation.  Back to routines, back to Jakarta living. My kitchen is “alive” again with the refrigerator packed with fresh produce and the pantry well re-stocked. Back to my clean eating and home cooked meals.     And the highlight of the week? Little Missy finally had a haircut! First time since she was born, so it was quite a big deal for us. Daddy loves his little girl in long hair, me too. But her hair was way too long and a lot of work when it came to daily washing...

STRESS-LESS TRAVELING WITH YOUNG KIDS

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  Travelling can be exhausting and even more so when we have little kiddos in tow.  My daughter is one active little girl who loves to run and climb whenever there’s a chance. With a curious brain that pours out lots of “what’s that?” and “why is that?” questions, she’s an adventurous kid who will try just about absolutely everything if you don’t stop her in time. ...

I am BACK

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Sorry for being MIA for the last 3 weeks. We’re just back from a family vacation Down Under. I was planning to drop a quick note to you all before my trip but Little Missy was sick just a week before our departure, so I had my hands full getting her well and ready for the trip.

I was limited on how often I could check my blog during the trip, heck I didn’t even turn on my phone until the very last day!  Those of you out there that travel with young...

WEEKLY WRAP-UP

WEEK 2 - MARCH 2013

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  In my “Love-Hate” affair with living in Jakarta, TRAFFIC is at the top of the list for sure. It was bad when I was living here previously and has become much worse since we’re back living here again.   Doesn’t matter the time of day, chances are you’ll get stuck in traffic with mostly no reason – other than the sheer volume of cars and motorcycles and even more motorcycles. When it’s raining or immediately after, will...

MIU-MIU

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This little Shih Tzu is not just a pet to our household; she is our buddy and family member. She is turning 9 years old next month, and she is still one happy dog and in healthy shape. She can be grumpy sometimes when we disturb her from her long nap, or when she doesn’t feel like playing (but we tease her anyway), or when it’s time for a bath. Oh how she rebels at the last one, although she will usually calm down in the end, as she...

WEEKLY WRAP-UP

WEEK 1 - MARCH 2013

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View from our room's balcony

 

Mr. Husband had to fly to Singapore to renew a work visa last week, Little Missy and I tagged along to spend the weekend there. We haven’t done any travelling for quite awhile so that was a fun family getaway.

Little Missy loves travelling; the idea of packing and getting into...

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